When we receive news of the death of a loved one, we often don’t know how to react.
However, the Church offers concrete ways to care for the soul of the deceased and lovingly support those who are grieving. Here are 12 ways to do so.
The project “The Catholic Classroom,” which describes itself as a “resource for exploring and understanding the Catholic faith,” shared a reflection on this delicate moment on Instagram.
The account points out that when someone dies, we often offer condolences or say, “I’m sorry,” but we can still feel unsure about how to act.
“But as Catholics, we are not without guidance. The Church, in its wisdom, offers us concrete ways to care for the soul of the deceased and to love those who are grieving,” the post says.
They explain that praying, offering Mass for the deceased, being present, accompanying, and supporting the family are true acts of charity.
“These are more than simple kind gestures: they are works of mercy, rooted in love and in the hope of the Resurrection.”
When our loved ones are going through the pain of grief, here are 12 concrete actions we can take:
1) As soon as you find out, pray
Our Father, Hail Mary, Glory Be
Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May their soul(s) and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.
2) Offer a Mass
Offer a Mass for the repose of their soul. Let the family know.
3) Gain an indulgence
Obtain an indulgence for the soul of the deceased.
4) Light a candle
Light a candle for their soul and let the family know.
5) Pray the Rosary
Pray a Rosary for the repose of their soul.
6) Write a card
Let the family know that you are praying for them and for the soul of their loved one.
7) Send flowers
A simple way to express your prayers and condolences.
8) Visit the family
Stay close to them with charity and prayer.
9) Bring food
Offer to bring a meal to the family during their time of grief. Organizing meal trains can help, but always ask first—some families may prefer privacy.
10) Attend the visitation (wake)
Be present for the family and pray for their loved one.
11) Attend the funeral Mass
Pray with the Church for the repose of their soul.
12) Offer a financial donation
Give to their parish or to a ministry they loved.